Weddings at our churches
There are some resources for weddings at the bottom of this page which you might find useful.
A Guide for Couples
We enjoy hosting weddings and do all that we can to make your day a very special one. This is a brief guide to the procedure for arranging a wedding and is only a summary of both the legal and ecclesiastical procedures which have to be followed. It is not exhaustive and if you have any query please contact Revd Nigel Lacey (via the Contact page).
If you live in one of our parishes (if you are not sure check on achurchnearyou.com where you can enter your postcode to check which parish you are in)
Your marriage can be solemnised in the parish church of the parish in which you live. Banns will be read in the church on three Sundays a few weeks before the wedding. Many couples like to be in church to hear them read.
If you do not live in the parish in which you wish to be married
There are two ways to do this. Normally, in order for you to be married in the church of your choice you will both need to be on the electoral roll of that parish. To do this requires regular attendance at Sunday services for a minimum period of six months. This must be born in mind when choosing a date for the wedding. Regular attendance is defined as being at least twice a month and we do insist on this. It is also a requirement for enrolment that the person is a baptised member of the Church. We can arrange to baptise you if necessary.
A marriage can take place in the church of your choice provided that at least one of you-
1. Was baptised in parish
2. Has an entry for confirmation recorded in the parish register of the parish you wish to be married in.
3. Has had a usual place of residence in that parish for at least 6 months.
4. Has habitually attended worship at the parish for at least 6 months
5. A parent has lived in the parish for at least 6 months during your lifetime.
6. A parent has habitually attended worship for at least 6 months.
7. A parent or grandparent was married in the parish.
Marrying someone who is a foreign national
It is strongly recommended by the Church of England that any marriage involving a foreign national should be by common licence. In these cases it is desirable that the person making application for a licence should produce a document from the appropriate Embassy or Consulate to certify that there has been compliance with all the preliminary legal formalities necessary to enable a marriage in England. Also there will need to be evidence that the marriage will be accepted
as valid in the country of origin. The granting of a Common Licence is discretionary and not a matter of right. A licence will not be granted where neither person has been baptised. More details can be had from the clergy.
Re Marriage in church of a divorcee during the lifetime of a former partner.
We welcome those who are divorced who come to church seeking the opportunity for Christian marriage. However, a remarriage will only be carried out after an interview with one of the clergy. The practice in this Benefice is to follow the House of Bishop’s Guidelines. These require us to ask you questions about the previous marriage and the circumstances in which it ended. Careful consideration is then given over the decision to re marry. The refusal to take the service in these circumstances is final, and there is no process of appeal to the Bishop in the Church of England.
A minister is also within his or her rights to refuse to allow a particular church to be used for this purpose by another minister. At the same time, it is not possible for divorcees to search for another church where there may be a sympathetic minister prepared to take the service because of the legal restrictions on where couples may marry .
Occasionally a couple prefer a service of blessing after a civil marriage. Sometimes couples who have been married for some time also appreciate a Service for the Renewal of Marriage Vows, to give thanks for their marriage. If you would like to know more about these please ask.
Resources to help you plan your wedding
The Church of England has a very good website - https://www.yourchurchwedding.org/ with all sorts of useful advice to help you plan. It is well worth a look at.
I have put together a basic outline of the wedding service here which you might find helpful. Also, the fees for weddings for this year.
A Guide for Couples
We enjoy hosting weddings and do all that we can to make your day a very special one. This is a brief guide to the procedure for arranging a wedding and is only a summary of both the legal and ecclesiastical procedures which have to be followed. It is not exhaustive and if you have any query please contact Revd Nigel Lacey (via the Contact page).
If you live in one of our parishes (if you are not sure check on achurchnearyou.com where you can enter your postcode to check which parish you are in)
Your marriage can be solemnised in the parish church of the parish in which you live. Banns will be read in the church on three Sundays a few weeks before the wedding. Many couples like to be in church to hear them read.
If you do not live in the parish in which you wish to be married
There are two ways to do this. Normally, in order for you to be married in the church of your choice you will both need to be on the electoral roll of that parish. To do this requires regular attendance at Sunday services for a minimum period of six months. This must be born in mind when choosing a date for the wedding. Regular attendance is defined as being at least twice a month and we do insist on this. It is also a requirement for enrolment that the person is a baptised member of the Church. We can arrange to baptise you if necessary.
A marriage can take place in the church of your choice provided that at least one of you-
1. Was baptised in parish
2. Has an entry for confirmation recorded in the parish register of the parish you wish to be married in.
3. Has had a usual place of residence in that parish for at least 6 months.
4. Has habitually attended worship at the parish for at least 6 months
5. A parent has lived in the parish for at least 6 months during your lifetime.
6. A parent has habitually attended worship for at least 6 months.
7. A parent or grandparent was married in the parish.
Marrying someone who is a foreign national
It is strongly recommended by the Church of England that any marriage involving a foreign national should be by common licence. In these cases it is desirable that the person making application for a licence should produce a document from the appropriate Embassy or Consulate to certify that there has been compliance with all the preliminary legal formalities necessary to enable a marriage in England. Also there will need to be evidence that the marriage will be accepted
as valid in the country of origin. The granting of a Common Licence is discretionary and not a matter of right. A licence will not be granted where neither person has been baptised. More details can be had from the clergy.
Re Marriage in church of a divorcee during the lifetime of a former partner.
We welcome those who are divorced who come to church seeking the opportunity for Christian marriage. However, a remarriage will only be carried out after an interview with one of the clergy. The practice in this Benefice is to follow the House of Bishop’s Guidelines. These require us to ask you questions about the previous marriage and the circumstances in which it ended. Careful consideration is then given over the decision to re marry. The refusal to take the service in these circumstances is final, and there is no process of appeal to the Bishop in the Church of England.
A minister is also within his or her rights to refuse to allow a particular church to be used for this purpose by another minister. At the same time, it is not possible for divorcees to search for another church where there may be a sympathetic minister prepared to take the service because of the legal restrictions on where couples may marry .
Occasionally a couple prefer a service of blessing after a civil marriage. Sometimes couples who have been married for some time also appreciate a Service for the Renewal of Marriage Vows, to give thanks for their marriage. If you would like to know more about these please ask.
Resources to help you plan your wedding
The Church of England has a very good website - https://www.yourchurchwedding.org/ with all sorts of useful advice to help you plan. It is well worth a look at.
I have put together a basic outline of the wedding service here which you might find helpful. Also, the fees for weddings for this year.
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The Benefice of Burton and Sopley Wedding fees 2019
Statutory fees
Marriage service in Church £455.00
Publication of banns £44.00
Marriage certificate £4.00 (Total £503.00)
Church fees
Verger £25.00
Organist £65.00
Total £593.00
Extras
Bells – St. Michael and All Angels, Sopley only £140.00
Choir £80.00
All fees to be paid not less than 3 weeks before the date of the wedding please. If you would like to pay by BACS, here are the details-
For St. Luke’s, Burton
Account name – PCC of Burton
Account number – 00201844
Sort code – 30-92-02
For St. Michael’s, Sopley
Account name – PCC of Sopley
Account number – 00202735
Sort code – 30-92-02